Stop and think.
Very simple, but very powerful words.
This works agains phone scammers, door-to-door high-pressure sales tactics people, and - this "hoarding" question.
They don't want you to think anymore, they say you've been thinking all this time, it's taking too long.
Right Now !!!, they say.
I'm not waiting another day - if you don't clean up all this right now, I will!!!, they say. ( True story, I heard it personally )
But this is all to distract from the fact that you're in a vulnerable position, and you've been manipulated and lied to in every way.
If there is an emergency, it should be dealt with - but someone wanting something RIGHT NOW because they are "fed up", and unleashing a barrage of nagging and yelling ( which is abuse, and which "experts" tacitly approve of ) - is not an emergency, it's dominance and abuse.
You are not being listened to anymore, your requests for reasonableness, your pleas for common human civility, are being ignored.
And they don't want you to think about that either.
They don't want you to think about your rights, including the right for dignity, for safety, for civility in your own home.
Wait a minute, you are being abused.
Wait a minute, you're being steamrolled by a barrage of accusations.
Stop and think, what's really going on.
And pay attention.